let's talk about sex

"But because of the temptation 
to sexual immorality,
each man should have his own wife
and each woman her own 
husband."

1 Corinthians 7:2

Hey guys!! I hope you all are doing well. This is probably the most "controversial" blog I will ever post. I want to make it clear... This is what I believe God wants for me. I am not here to judge you. So please do not take this offensively in any kind of way. My blog is meant for encouragement, and I would never want to upset any of you. 

I am eighteen years old, and I am still a virgin. Despite being in a relationship for four years, I held onto my desire to be abstinent. I have also been very outspoken about it. People would ask about my ex and I's love life, and we would just tell them. I will tell anyone that I am still virgin, and that I am happy to be one. I mean it has also been great to never have a pregnancy scare haha. It seems that more and more people these days see abstinence as this impossible thing. I have had people tell me it is impossible, and well obviously, it is not. I mean I am just as human as anyone else, and it has been possible for me.

See humans are incredibly curious. It is why people pick up really bad habits. They just wanted to try a cigarette one time, and suddenly, they are addicted. Once you have sex and know what that feels like, it can be hard to go back to not doing it. For instance, a glazed donut is not a healthy option, and if I never tried one, I would never crave the taste of a glazed donut. However, I know how good a glazed donut is, and I definitely crave one from time to time. Once we have a taste of any kind of pleasure, we will always remember how good it is.

In today's society, we see so much sex in movies and on social media almost constantly. If a guy is a virgin, he is looked down upon, and considered not "fully" a man. Waiting till marriage is sometimes looked at as being "overly religious" and/or "uptight." When a guy has been with many girls, they are cheered for. Abstinence is no longer looked at the way it should be. Instead of it being encouraged, today's society discourages it.  

I am not going to sit here and force anyone to do what I am doing though. That is not what I am here to do, but I know there are still people trying to decide what they want to do. There may also be people who have already lost their virginity, but have decided to move forward and wait till marriage. So, for those of you who are still deciding or have already decided to wait, I never want you to feel alone. It can seem like no one else wants to wait, but that is just not the case. People sometimes just choose to not speak out about it, because they are scared of being ridiculed. 

Many people talk about how they want their first time to be special. What could be more special then your wedding night? You just married someone you want to be with for the rest of your life, and you are bubbling over with joy on your special day. Think of how worth it is to wait for a moment like that. You are able to build a relationship with someone, and truly love them without having sex. You are strengthening a relationship in many ways by both agreeing to abstain. When it comes time for that, it will be worth the wait. 

For those who may have lost their virginity, but have decided to move forward and wait till marriage, I just want to encourage you today. I have talked to people in that position, and they feel so much guilt and regret. There is nothing you can do now except continue with your life, and do what you feel is right. Some of us have to learn the hard way with different things. 

I want to wrap this up by saying... Let's just be encouraging to each other. I am not going to shame someone for not waiting, and no one needs to shame me for waiting. It is not for me to say what you can and cannot do. The world is constantly going to change ideas, but just because someone is doing something the "old-fashioned" way, it does not mean they are in the wrong. Someone waiting till marriage is not going to hurt you or anyone else. Someone not waiting till marriage is not going to hurt you or anyone else. 

As always, you are loved and appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog! <3 Prayers for my grandmother are still very much appreciated. 

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PEACE OUT UNTIL NEXT TIME!!!